Review of A Thousand Naked Strangers: A Paramedic's Wild Ride to the Edge and Back

A thousand naked strangers

 KEVIN Hazzard was a reporter with a comfortable life. Then, Sept 11 happened, and he was suddenly thinking about "all the things I hadn't done."

Listening to his soldier friends recount life-and-death experiences of war, Hazzard suddenly felt that his world was too safe, too routine. He wanted to test himself and see if he could handle the pressure of facing death in the face.

So, he became a paramedic.

Hazzard quickly tells the reader that he didn't do so because he had the noble thirst to save humankind from suffering.

I'm unconvinced, however, and believe that some tiny form of altruism was involved -- why else sign up for a low-paying job where you're shoved into situations where you could either a) end up killed? b) end up killing someone. This is alarming and depressing, but through this memoir I discovered that an emergency medical technician gets paid a few dollars more an hour than someone working in a fast food restaurant in the United States!

In what he described as a "rash decision", Hazzard signed up for emergency medical training and immediately had serious doubts. But stuck with it, he did, driven by the desire to see whether he could hack this intense life. And with clammy hands and a pounding heart, he became the crucial link between a person and the hospital a few months later at the age of 26.

Just a day in the job, Hazzard quickly realised that the scenarios painted in the classroom was ideal. Real life was far messier, frightening and heart-breaking.

WHAT I THINK

Hazzard experienced situations that would make your jaw drop. Collecting body parts strewn across a highway after a terrible road accident, evaluating a too-ripe corpse and wondering whether it'll "blow". Working on a patient while his patient's father watches TV, more concerned about his son's cigarette stash than his life.

These were situations where one would veer from celebrating humanity's great potential to losing hope that our species even deserved to even crawl out of the muck.

Hazzard worked for Atlanta's prominent imposing hospital, Grady, and in the worst areas of Atlanta, and no night is the same.

One reason this memoir was so effective was Hazzard didn't just highlight the uplifting moments where he saved people's lives. He also highlighted the corruption and politics that not just cause paramedics to be fired, but risked the lives of patients and paramedics too.

One's reaction to all this contributed to a medic being “a tourist” (just there to collect the pay), “true believer” (a medic who loves what he does) or “killer” (a medic so burnt out he no longer cares if his charges lived or died).

Hazzard has a way of writing a scene so that it comes alive. Example: "Marty trails, careful not to step on any of the maggots, all of them tiny squiggling urns, fat with the remains of a man not yet dead."

You can almost smell the scene.

Is it any wonder that the highs and lows of a paramedic's life comes alive? Hazzard combines his nose for the news, his great writing style and experience as a medic in one of the toughest neighbourhoods one can be a medic in and the result is this electrifying memoir.

One of the best memoirs I've read!

 

Disclaimer: I received an ARC copy from NetGalley

My first AirBnb experience

I love staycations. My friends find it weird that I'd check into a hotel at least once a month ... in the same city. But by staying somewhere new every month, not only does it feed that wanderlust beast in me, it feels like a relaxing day at the spa!

But hotel prices have been astronomical lately, and I've been getting more and more curious about the Internet phenom that is AirBnB. Since it was my first time, I made sure I booked with a host that has gotten a few good reviews. Here's the studio unit in Petaling Jaya I got in April:

So, this is what happens after you book your AirBnB unit (you have to pay up front): Your host would usually contact you - at least Vanessa did, and very promptly. In that email she detailed how I was to get the key. And we discussed, also via email, what time I was to "check in".

On the day: Finding Vanessa's unit was a little challenging, and on top of that I was desperately late because a lorry overturned on the highway. Luckily, the host was willing to wait an extra two hours for me. I fell in love with the apartment immediately. It was in a cosy green corner of Damansara Perdana and very near the shops. I could picture myself living here.

I've always been fascinated with living in a studio, so Vanessa's studio in Damansara Perdana scratched that itch.

Yup, I loved it! The minimalist in me really loved the simplicity and cosiness of studio living. The only thing stopping me for making studio living a permanent arrangement, however, is that the kitchen is often in the same room. That's a thing with me. I can't bear the thought of smelling bacon on my sheets - so perhaps a one-room apartment is better for me.

But I digress. Here's the best part about Vanessa's studio:

View last night at Damansara #staycation #airbnb

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Watching TV with a glass of cold lemonade with that gorgeous view? Man!

I wasn't lucky enough to buy an apartment with a killer view, but now a view like this is just an AirBnB reservation away. Who needs mortgages anyway?

So my first experience was a great one! I've already booked my second.

How about you? What's your experience with AirBnb?

Review of Love Sick by Cory Martin

Love Sick by Cory Martin

At first, Cory Martin tried to brush off the unexplained pain and tingling in her body as the protests of a worn-out body. After all, how could she not be tired when she was leading the ultimate single girl's life?

Martin was 28 years old, beautiful and living her dream job writing scripts and tie-in novels for the hit television show The OC. Her life was a constant whirl of activity -- socially and career wise. Something has got to give.

Still, the nagging pain never went away. Reluctantly, Martin subjected herself to an MRI.

The results was devastating. A few days before being "yet another bridesmaid" for a friend, Martin received news that she could have Multiple Sclerosis, a devastating and incurable disease that could land her in a wheelchair one day.

Her immediate thought was, "Who's going to want to marry me now?"

Refusing to give in to a supposedly grim destiny, Martin threw herself into the dating game while going through painful procedures such as spinal taps and scanning her brain to discover whether she really had the disease, and if she did, how far it had progressed.

Although I always make a point never to judge a memoirist's journey, I couldn't help but think that Martin's way of coping was probably not the best. After all, she was exposing herself to a game that was considered ruthless even at your healthiest.

So, I wince at Martin's many encounters, many of which make you doubt the goodness of the male species.

If I felt bad, Martin undoubtedly felt worse.

"I believed loving me was like loving a ticking time bomb," said Martin in the book.

THE BIG QUESTION

Many memoirs read like fiction. There's a hero, a quest with a prize in mind. So often, in the end, there's also a happily ever after. But as much as I would like to believe that memoirs should have a narrative arc like fiction, real life doesn't work that way -- something Martin understood from the beginning.

"When people hear you've been diagnosed with a life-altering disease, they want you to have this big 'aha' moment,'" said Martin.

Instead, the disease gave her the desire to "move forward". And so the book is written in this same manner -- one bad date leading to another, one medical test to another, without a discernible goal in mind.

In every memoir, there's a central question. Elizabeth Gilbert's famed Eat, Pray, Love is, "What on Earth am I here for?"

Love Sick's central question didn't seem clear for me, and I found myself asking repeatedly whether there was a point to Martin's story.

Towards the end, however, I concluded that Martin's question was: "Do I need a man to feel whole?"

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Her MS was like a challenge imposed to her by the Universe. And perhaps that was why she did what she did -- to prove to herself that she was loveable despite her disease.

At the end of the memoir, we readers do discover the answer to that question as Martin arrive at a wonderful truth about her life. After her arduous journey through the brutal dating scene and medical system, you can't help but cheer for her.

I wished, however, that she spent had more time writing about how her life went after coming to that painful but necessary realisation. It felt like a brief addendum instead of a satisfying conclusion.

But true to her promise that all she wanted was to "move forward" and not do anything grand, Martin ended the memoir in such a way where the answer to the memoir's question is made murky.

In the end, there are no neat endings in Love Sick. Life is like that after all.

Disclaimer: I received an ARC copy from NetGalley